The gold digger’s reason for hooking up is to gain material benefits from the guy she’s screwing, dating or marrying.
“If you have to ask yourself if she’s a gold digger, she probably is,” writes the gold digger expert at spotgolddiggers.com
“Generally, they are the type who prefer to wear Prada,” writes VT Castle, “but for the life of them, couldn’t tell you how to spell it.
They’re not ashamed to flaunt their high profile status and alert you up front that you “have to pay to play” aside from the fact that her favorite phrase goes something like “my coochie is always dressed in Gucci!”
There are two basic types of Gold Diggers out there; the women who doesn’t give a shit about you at all, and the women who cares a little bit about you. The first is only interested in herself and what she can beg, borrow or steal from you. The second one probably likes you but will never love you.
1. She’s out of your league
Your ego is boosted when you consider that she’s so much hotter than you are, but bear in mind that this could be a bad sign. No offense, but if she’s miles better looking than you are, you have to wonder what she’s hoping to gain from the relationship. If you happen to have a fat wallet to accompany your great head of hair, it could be a sign that she’s hoping to increase her wealth by association.
2. She treats you like a walking ATM machine
Every time you turn around, the new girlfriend has a crisis or need that requires money. You’re a generous guy, so you don’t mind helping her out. Yet, the little voice in your head is saying ‘this chick thinks you are made of money.’ Don’t ignore it. If a woman treats you like an ATM machine and is always making financial withdrawals, she is a gold digger. The gold digger is eager for gifts that are caked with money, instead of sentimental value.
3. She never offers to pay
She never offers to pay and only says thank you when promoted as if she’s entitled to your generosity. When the bill arrives at the table, she pretends it doesn’t exist. It’s always up to you to settle it, and she never even offers to pay or go Dutch. Basically, she takes it for granted that you’re a gentleman, and when it comes to shelling out money, you’re the one for the job.
4. She’s curious about your finances
Your girlfriend has been interested in hearing about your career and financial status from day one. Though you might mistake her curiosity for interest in your life, she’s probably sussing you out to ensure you will be able to pay her way through the relationship.
5. She is status obsessed
She’ll regularly snub people whom she perceives as having a low status, like the homeless or those working in service jobs. On dates, she’s more likely to appear impressed if men tell her they own an Audi R8 than if they mention that they help out at soup kitchens on Sundays.
6. She hates other women
Always dressed in the finest clothing and looking gorgeous, the gold digger flaunts the fact that she likes to take care of herself. But it’s with other people’s money, of course. Since she places emphasis on her looks, she is wary of and competitive with other desirable women and dislikes their company if they are just as gorgeous or as status-endowed as she is. Clearly, her behavior is caught up in insecurity.
7. She uses her looks for short-term gain
She has to get to the front of the line at clubs, so she pops open a button on her cleavage-exposing top. She wants her neighbor to change her car tire so she won’t be late for lunch with the girls, so she walks over to him in a figure-flattering dress to make him drool. The gold digger uses her looks for short-term gain, and she probably charmed you that way too. But she doesn’t use her looks for long-term goals, simply because she doesn’t have any.
8. She doesn’t make you wear a condom
She doesn’t demand you wear a condom or “says” she will go on birth control early in the relationship. They hope to get pregnant, so they can use it to their financial advantage. You get the picture. A hard core digger will see kids as a lifelong financial insurance policy. Even a condom may not save you as there are digger “baby strategies” that can compromise the standard condom.
9. She climbs boyfriends
Instead of climbing the corporate ladder, the gold digger straps on her Manolos to use boyfriends as stepping stones. In fact, looking back on her relationship history, you’re likely to find that each guy she’s dated has been richer than the last. You’re her promotion to a more fabulous, expensive life.
10. Her friends are gold diggers
As the saying goes, you can tell a lot about someone from the company they keep. If your girlfriend spends time with other women who seem to show signs of being gold diggers, or you’ve heard gossip about their behavior, chances are she could well be influenced by their tendencies. It’s a good idea to keep your hand on your wallet.
If she plays the good role of a good girlfriend or wife too soon, you may also question her motives. If she cooks, cleans and washes or doesn’t nag when you go out with the guys you may want to review the above list. Why? Because this would make her too good. Too anything is suspicious!
On the other hand, if you’re a rich, well-off or a financially stable guy and you’re questioning whether your girlfriend or wife is with you for the right reasons, well, maybe she is or maybe she isn’t. But then, maybe she’s just a smart, forward thinker who has similar ambitions to yours. Maybe you should give her some credit.